What Do You Really Want? Start Dreaming
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Do you know what you want? Really know — beyond an urge for a warm cup of coffee right now?
Do you get quiet and connect to your deep, deep desires?
Years back, when I asked women, “What do you want?” I was amazed at how many of them could not answer that question about anything deeply meaningful.
It no longer surprises me when tears well up, or when there’s significant frustration, because so many women are enormously disconnected from what they want.
Or, they have a feeling of not being worthy of the true desires about which they are aware.
How about you?
If I was sitting with you, looking into your eyes, and asked you, “What do you want?” and “What else do you want?” over and over for five full minutes, would a host of desires tumble out? Would it be a challenge to get to the heart of what you truly want? Would you struggle to give voice to your desires?
You are worthy
One thing that trips many women up is a deep sense of not being deserving of having desires for themselves.
Or, if they are aware of what they desire, they do not feel worthy of the thing (or things) they want.
One remarkable, accomplished client of mine recently realized she doesn’t dare to dream. When we explored her resistance, she realized she keeps her focus on doing many things she cares about and is highly capable of, because she does not feel worthy of dreaming.
And, when she thought of letting herself dream, and imagined the possibilities for what might emerge if she did, she was filled with discomfort.
We are all worthy of dreaming — and exploring the dreams we find in our hearts!
A fundamental aspect of self-love — which is a foundation for being a creator of your most fulfilling life — is being able to listen lovingly to what is in your heart.
And having listened, when you cultivate abundant self-love, you feel that you are good enough. You know that you matter and that what you desire matters.
You know, too, that you must fully fill your own cup, first, in order to be there for other people in all the ways you care about, personally and professionally.
Connect to the desires you have now
Set aside a bit of quiet time — alone or with a close friend — and either write or speak things you want.
The things you find that you dearly want may be long-held desires, or may show up in the moment.
That’s why I recommend making a periodic practice of asking yourself questions like these:
“What do I want?
“What else do a I want?
“What do I deeply desire?”
“What do I dare to dream now?”
“Is there something else I really want?”
“If anything were possible, what would I pursue?”
“Do I have a crazy big dream that’s so audacious it’s hard to consider?”
“If nobody would judge me I would love to [fill in the blank]”
“Has a new desire shown up that I have not paid attention to?”
Do not edit yourself. And do not leave anything off the list because you do not know how that desire could be pursued, how it could become real, or what that reality might be like.
The point in this moment is to bring your desires to light.
To sit with them. Play with what might be possible, and what you might do to explore something that showed up.
This step will wake up your heart and light up your spirit.
It will ignite the creative power you are full of, that’s waiting to be accessed!
Your only job right now is to dream to get started.
You’ll be able to decide when to explore the desires that speak loudest to you, and how you want to proceed.
Trust your creative power to guide you
Once you get started you will realize that it doesn’t take any more energy to dream a big dream than a small one — so let yourself imagine the biggest possibilities as well as the small and significant dreams in your heart.
Then you can choose where and how you want to explore a dream or two.
The energy you ignite in the process of dreaming is your creative power. And you can trust that power — that’s rooted in your heart and your intuition — to steer you well.
Try it for yourself and see.
There’s no downside to letting yourself dream or feeling worthy of your desires.
And the upside?
Your dreams, and your belief in your worthiness of what you desire, are the first steps to creating a more expansive, fulfilling future.
I invite you to start dreaming today.
And then, use the spark you feel to take a tiny step toward creating one dream.
Email me and let me know how it goes for you!
