Who do you need to BECOME to live big now?
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Here we are, in the last week of October, looking ahead to a momentous election and the last 2 months of 2020.
Yup, there are only 65 days left in this year.
You may be hearing and reading about meeting end-of-year sales goals and doing year-end assessments.
Maybe you are thinking back to the ambitions you had for this year that got interrupted, and perhaps derailed, by the pandemic.
Rather than feeling stressed or anxious, I am offering you a couple of questions to consider:
What will help you to end the year on a strong note?
What states of mind, what ways of being, can you address now, to make these last 2 months the best they can be — and to be your most resourceful and resilient self as you move into 2021?
As you read these questions, are you wondering how to start thinking about answering them?
Consider this.
Your state of being is key to the quality of your life
Your state of being — how you show up in the world, your mindset each day — is the foundation upon which everything rests. It impacts your relationships, your work, your personal well-being — your entire life.
To BECOME more grounded, clear and confident, follow these 3 steps.
Step 1: Assess your current state
Take a look at this list of common challenges and consider which are limiting you now. (Trust me, we all are hampered by some or many of these, to one degree or another!)
How many of these trouble you?
A lack of confidence
Feeling unmotivated
People pleasing
Putting yourself last
Skipping self-care
Comparing yourself to others, making you feel like you are not good enough
Feeling like an imposter
Difficulty setting healthy boundaries
Feeling indecisive
Feeling overwhelmed
Feeling fearful
Mindset challenges like these are likely to have been in place long before the pandemic, though they may now be more of a hindrance. Or maybe some new ones have recently cropped up for you.
And maybe you are thinking of a challenge that is not on this list. If so, make a note of it now.
Next, jot down all of the challenges that hamper you these days. And for each one, note the level of negative impact they have for you.
Use a scale of 1 to 10, with 10 being the most distressing.
Are you surprised at what you see?
If your list is long, or the scale is high, do not feel discouraged. You now have more clarity — that’s a good thing! — and you can begin to move forward to address these limitations.
Step 2: Focus on small change for one challenge
With the clarity you have now, consider the single biggest limiting mindset challenge you identified — or the one that feels most urgent to address.
Yes, it can be big work to address such challenges. And I am glad to tell you that making change like this is doable — but the most effective way do it is to bring your attention to making small, focused changes to one thing at a time.
It’s tempting to try and change many things at once, but that’s not wise. When you are scattered and inconsistent in your efforts you are unlikely to achieve the changes you desire. That leads to feeling discouraged and giving up.
Begin by paying attention to the one thing you most want to address now.
And do not minimize the importance of taking very small steps to start shifting into a better frame of mind.
Consider taking small steps like these
When you feel overwhelmed, indecisive, or feel hampered by any of the stresses listed above, try adopting a conscious practice like simply slowing down and taking 2 to 3 minutes to breathe in quiet. Done consistently, this can be a surprisingly fast way to connect to your calm, wise self. It will help you more than you might imagine.
Or, if you are skimping on self-care, or notice you are people-pleasing, or realize that you frequently put yourself last, consider ways to treat yourself with more self-love. You might schedule 10 minutes for yourself each day — be it to soak in a tub before bed, to read quietly, or to take a mid-day walk.
Small practices like these, when regularly incorporated into your life, will have a meaningful impact.
You may also want to look at the helpful practices and exercises I’ve included in my book, Live Big: A Manifesto for a Creative Life, to help you address and overcome the limitations that concern you. Choose the practices you feel will most help you to make the changes you seek.
Step 3: Keep going, even if you are not always consistent!
When you bring commitment to incorporating a new practice into your life — even if you do it imperfectly and miss a day here and there — be sure to acknowledge yourself for making that commitment.
It’s when you get back on track and continue to build new practices that meaningful change becomes your new normal.
Much like brushing your teeth each day, you will soon stop needing to remind yourself to take those breaks, or treat yourself well, or set healthy boundaries. Practices like these become your new way of being, and you are then able to bring attention to the next area where you seek to make change.
Can you imagine what it can look to become more of the woman you want to be by the end of 2020?
What would it look like for you to show up and do what’s important to you without those old ways of being?
What might your new year look like if you were able to shift into being a creator of the life you want, rather than feeling like it’s so hard to make the moves you long for?
Begin now! Start to take small steps to become all you yearn to be.
There’s no time like the present to get started.
And if you want personal support, to help you overcome the limitations that are hampering you with more ease and consistency, let’s make a date for a complimentary Live Big Breakthrough Call.
I’ll be happy to help you gain insights and new perspectives about the challenges that limit you and how you can move forward in your life in exciting ways.
And, if we both think the fit is right, I can share the way that my new signature program, Live Big Live!, might help you become a powerful creator of the future you yearn for.
Stay safe and well, and keep creating.
